Play Therapy

Play is their language, toys are their words…….

Play therapy is a form of counseling that uses play to communicate with and help people, especially children, to prevent or resolve psychosocial challenges. Play therapy is used for emotional regulation, improve social skills, and resolve trauma. Filial therapy is a form of family play therapy, developed by Bernard and Louise Gurerney. This approach emphasizes a structured training program for parents in which they learn how to employ child-centered play sessions in the home

TEENS

The teenage years can be challenging for teens and their parents.  Issues that may arise that counseling could help with are:  family changes (moving, parents divorce, death or illness), relationship loss, abuse or addiction, bullying, or other peer pressures just to name a few.

Adults

At times one can feel overwhelmed, stuck, depressed or have anxiety.  Many emotional mental health issues come on suddenly or could have been growing for some time.   These times affect a person’s body, mind, feelings and behavior.    Individual counseling can help with:

  • resolve pain from past trauma, or emotional hurt
  • reduce negative self talk
  • improve relationships
  • free one self from guilt, and shame
  • promote personal growth and development
  • improvment with setting boundaries with others
  • improving personal satisfaction and increasing inner joy

Relational counseling

If you and your significant other are struggling in your relationship, if divorce or separation has been mentioned, then relational counseling may be appropriate.

4 horseman in communication

By: John gottman, PhD

Criticism

 Criticizing your partner is different than offering a critique or voicing a complaint! The latter two are about specific issues, whereas the former is an ad hominem attack: it is an attack on your partner at the core. In effect, you are dismantling his or her whole being when you criticize.

       Contempt

When we communicate in this state, we are truly mean – treating others with disrespect, mocking them with sarcasm, ridicule, name-calling, mimicking, and/or body language such as eye-rolling. The target of contempt is made to feel despised and worthless.

       Defensiveness

 We’ve all been defensive. This horseman is nearly omnipresent when relationships are on the rocks. When we feel accused unjustly, we fish for excuses so that our partner will back off. Unfortunately, this strategy is almost never successful. Our excuses just tell our partner that we don’t take them seriously, trying to get them to buy something that they don’t believe, that we are blowing them off.

       Stonewalling

Stonewalling occurs when the listener withdraws from the interaction. In other words, stonewalling is when one person shuts down and closes himself/herself off from the other. It is a lack of responsiveness to your partner and the interaction between the two of you.  Rather than confronting the issues (which tend to accumulate!) with our partner, we make evasive maneuvers such as tuning out, turning away, acting busy, or engaging in obsessive behaviors. It takes time for the negativity created by the first three horsemen to become overwhelming enough that stonewalling becomes an understandable “out,” but when it does, it frequently becomes a habit.